Going to your elderly residents for advice: benefits for young and old

Whether you work in aged care or you just want the best for your older relatives, we constantly look to create purpose in the lives of our elderly. For the longest time the eldest members of a community had a very important and well defined purpose, they were the wise and respected elders who dispensed wisdom. It’s possible to restore some of this purpose in the way you interact with your elderly, and it starts by going to them for advice. The next few paragraphs will outline cultural differences and the benefits of respecting the elderly. If you’re impatient skip ahead to the last section where we discuss methods you can use to integrate some of these techniques into your work or relationships.

 

Why did we stop seeing our elders as wise?

The West has unfortunately embraced the stereotype of the elderly as being useless and incompetent, one cause of this may be due to our massive increases in life expectancy. This means that compared to older civilisations, our eldest citizens are much older and may therefore be more frail and prone to experience cognitive decline. Martinez-Carter believes the lack of respect may be due to the Western Protestant work ethic, “which ties an individual’s value to his or her ability to work — something that diminishes in old age”. Comparatively, Eastern cultures such as China and Korea hold the elderly in much greater esteem.

 

Why is this important?

Apart from being a good way to honour those that came before you, respect for the elderly plays an important role in their mental state. One of the ways this functions is through a concept known as Stereotype Threat. See the video below for a good explanation, but what’s important to know is that knowledge of a stereotype can cause it to become true. The classic example is that African American students performed worse on a test ONLY if they were told it measured academic abilities (Steele & Aronson, 1995). This is because the stereotype is that African-Americans are not academically smart, and knowledge of the stereotype becomes activated and hinders the performance of the participants, who expect themselves to do worse.

This dilemma stretches over to the elderly, who when reminded of either their age, or when told that they’re being tested on cognitive abilities, perform much worse at memory tasks (Hess, Auman, Colcombe, & Rahhal, 2003). This is important, as it shows that our stereotypes about the elderly are holding them back, forming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Luckily there’s a way we can reverse these effects.

 

Experience: the resource they do have

The best thing you can possibly do for an elderly resident or relative is give them purpose. In many cases this ranges from doing simple tasks like setting tables, folding towels or helping deliver mail. This isn’t the norm though, as many older adults are in care because they are not capable of managing tasks like this, and with the increase in the elderly demographic most homes are aiming to take those that are least capable of remaining in the community. Finding a purpose for someone who is bed-ridden and does not have the memory needed to manage simple tasks can be daunting, but there’s one important resource that all our elderly possess: experience.

 

In practice

The best way to utilise an older person’s years of experience, both to give them purpose and for your own benefit, is to ask for that person’s advice or opinion. This can be about a wide range of things such as news, politics or history, but the one thing I find most rewarding is to ask their advice on a problem in life that I’m having trouble with, such as relationship issues. The good thing about this is that you start by showing weakness or ignorance, which puts them in a position of power (something they often don’t have a lot of). They then get the opportunity to act as the wise older tribe member, passing on their wisdom to a younger generation.

The method for doing this is to simply speak honestly to them, if they ask how you are let them know you’re worried about your workload at university, or you think you said the wrong thing to your partner and need advice on how to smooth it over. Of course it doesn’t have to be about life issues, you could ask something historical like “I was reading about how in the war the women had to do a lot of the men’s jobs while they were away, did this affect you?” You might be surprised how useful this is, our elderly have lived a much more exciting life than we often give them credit for. Of course you may get answers that don’t make any sense at all, but the sentiment is the same and it still provides a way for you to put an elder in a place of high-esteem.

armwrestling-1433099-1279x945A few things to remember

  • Don’t ask them anything that’s inappropriate. In your personal life you may be struggling with a crippling heroin addiction but it’s not a wise move to ask your grandma what she’d recommend you do.
  • Tailor the questions around things they are knowledgeable about. Good options are questions relating to their previous work or hobbies.
  • Remember their limitations and work around them. If they have trouble remembering the past, ask them questions that are focused around the future like “If I was going to propose to my partner, how do you think I should do it?”
  • Don’t argue or correct. They may have differing opinions to you or may have memory issues due to dementia, but just go along with what they’re saying. This is about them getting a chance to pass on their experience, not about being accurate, and trying to change the mind of someone with dementia can be agitating for both parties.
  • Be honest. Don’t make up problems or interests just so you can ask their advice, if you have no idea about something they’re knowledgeable in ask them to explain what they like about it, instead of feigning interest.

 

Conclusion

The elderly are aware of the negative stereotypes that surround them, which in turn increases the likelihood that they fulfil them. Due to declining mobility and cognitive abilities in nursing home residents, finding purpose is now harder than ever. You can help address both of these problems by respecting the elderly for the value they do have: experience. Do this by actively seeking out their advice and opinions; treat them as the wise men and women they would love to be. It seems obvious, but once you start consciously going to your residents for advice you will see the difference it can make.

If you have any other ways to do this, ideas for questions to ask, or experiences of your own leave them in a comment below.

Google Chromecast: YouTube on the television and more!

What is it?

If you’re looking for a way to stream YouTube videos to your nursing home’s televisions along with photos, music, NetFlix and even games, then the Google Chromecast might be the cheapest and easiest option to do so.

chromecast deviceThe Chromecast, pictured above, is a small device that plugs into your television’s HDMI port and connects to the internet via WiFi. From there you can use your phone or iPad as a remote and select from a wide range of apps to play to your television. The most useful app is YouTube; from which you can view a wide range of videos to tailor to your resident’s desires, but you can also show photos directly from your phone and play music via apps like Spotify.

Setting it up

First you’ll need to know whether you can actually use the Chromecast in your nursing home. You’ll need to make sure there’s a wireless internet connection (WiFi) you can connect to that is strong enough to stream videos; you can check this by connecting with your smartphone and playing some videos near the television where you would be using it. Next you’ll have to make sure you have a television with a HDMI port you can easily plug into. It should be located on the back, side or possibly the bottom of the television and should be labelled. You will also need an electrical outlet close by to plug the Chromecast into.

If you have these things you should be able to set up the device and get it working quite quickly. You can buy the Chromecast from JB Hi-Fi for $59 and it comes with instructions for setting it up. The instructions are also covered on Google’s support website, so I’ll leave out the technicalities but it really is simple.

Chromecast youtubeOne crucial step though is that you’ll need to download the Google Cast app on any device you want to use as a remote. I use my phone, but you can also download Google Cast on an iPad and use that. Once your Chromecast is all set up, you can stream from compatible apps if you see the Google Cast symbol (circled above in red), just click it and tell it to stream to your Chromecast. Your phone or iPad can now be used to change videos, alter the volume or skip ahead. This is link for the app store, use it for iPads and iPhones. Otherwise for your android devices and for laptops use the Google Play Store.

Running a group

iPads are great for showing videos and photos, but unfortunately their small size and limited sound capabilities make them a poor option for use in larger groups or with residents that have poor eyesight and hearing. The Chromecast is great in these situations, because it allows you to use the bigger screen and better sound of the television, and a whole group can participate and discuss what’s showing.

I would recommend planning out some videos that would be suitable before starting your group. At the bottom of this article I’ve put some suggested playlists, such as old footage from Sydney and a collection of videos from popular musicals. Alternatively, you can get suggestions from the group on what they want to watch and tailor the session to them. Do you have a resident that loves Shirley Temple? Search it! Have a resident that loves cats? The internet has thousands of hours of felines doing funny things. Need to jazz up your exercise class? Use one of the many guided videos for chair exercises. The possibilities are endless.

Of course YouTube is just the beginning. If you go through your Google Cast app on your phone, it will tell you what apps you have that can cast to the television. You can often use this to show photos that you have stored on your phone, but you can also use any music playing apps you have downloaded like Spotify, or Google Play.

If you go to your options in your Google Cast app, there’s also the option to “Cast screen” to the television (see photo below). What this means is you can show whatever is displaying on your phone on the television screen. You can use this with apps like Facebook in order to show holiday photos or anything else of interest.

screencast

Lastly, you can also use any streaming sites that you are subscribed to, such as NetFlix or Stan, in order to show movies and television shows to your residents. You should check your data plan before doing this however, as you don’t want to go over your allotted amount of downloads for the month and be charged extra.

There is also a limited amount of games that are compatible with the Chromecast but I have not personally tried them. Trivia based games like Trivia Bash might be worth looking at, if you have any suggestions let me know.

Have any more ideas for how to use Chromecast in aged care? Let me know in the comments. If you have any trouble setting it up or running groups using it feel free to comment and I might be able to help.

Suggested YouTube playlists

A collection of old footage from Sydney

Popular songs from old musicals

How It’s Made compilation ( interesting footage from factories)

Pixar short films